[ Screenshot of an ask on Trans Parrot Fish’s Significant Other.
The ask reads: “Hi there, my “boyfriend” told me I should read this site. My girlfriend told me a few weeks ago that she’s transgendered and she feels she should have been born a boy. I told her I support her but I still can’t get used to changing pronouns, so we agreed for me to try later, when I’ve had more time. I’m a lesbian and I don’t know how to feel about it all. My partner said that eventually she wants to get her boobs cut off, but I would feel terrible if she did. I just want advice on how to cope. - Anonymous”
The response reads: “I’m not in the mood for this, so this is going to be a very angry response.
It’s not about you. You can eat shit for disrespecting him like this.
He is a boy. You don’t get to sit here and make this all about you and your feelings because you’re ~uncomfortable~ with it. IF you want to be a supportive partner, you get with the fucking program.
It doesn’t matter how you feel about it, so long as you’re not a piece of shit to your partner.
Whether or not your boyfriend has top surgery is his business. It does not matter at fucking all how you feel about that, because it’s not your fucking body.
My advice to you is to sit the fuck down, shut the fuck up, and stop flinging your shit at your partner with your behavior.
First things first, if he told you he is transgender then from here on out you refer to him as your boyfriend. Not as your “boyfriend”, not as your “girlfriend” not as she—you change your pronouns. You don’t make excuses for it, you just do it.
My advice on how to cope?
Stop being a selfish, disgusting human being—because that is what you are being. “Get her boobs cut off”? Fuck you. Seriously, fuck you.
If you can’t handle it, that isn’t his problem. He deserves better than you. My advice? Pull your head out of your ass and decide whether you want to sit there and be full of yourself and misgender him and weep over the fact his dysphoria might be stronger than your sex drive, or if you want to continue being cis scum.
As long as you misgender him and weep over him wanting to do something for his own bodily autonomy, you are nothing more than scum.
Either stay here and get educated, or get the fuck off my blog and get out of his life you poison.
went ahead and snagged a rebloggable version for those who might be interested!
Love, someone who’s been both a girlfriend and a boyfriend, but has a partner willing to love both
Can I get an ’oh snap’ with that ‘goddamn’?
I’m sorry, but this was a very immature and cruel way to respond to a question like this.
“selfish, disgusting human being”?
If we’re all here supporting equality
(which no, we aren’t, but we’re trying and that counts) you could have calmly wrote an angry, but very educated letter of tolerance.
I know that dysphoria is a very common problem among pre-op transgenders, but that is no reason to go to the dire lengths of calling someone “cis scum” because that is what very ignorant people do.
Don’t you think that cis people get offended too?
Maybe a cis person did something wrong by an mistake, and instead of educating the person, you would call him/her “cis scum” who are, as you put it, “selfish human beings.”
What she said was, in fact, slightly offensive, but she didn’t know how to cope with it, which a lot of uneducated cis people are not really experienced with.
I’m not supporting either side, but I’m still pointing out that (A) Please think before you answer, and if your goal is to educate and promote equality for all genders, then please rewrite your answer into a format that’s pleasing and informative to all people and (B) To people like Anon: Please think about your partner’s emotional and physical health before yourself. Educate yourself! It’s empowering and can really help in the long run!